7 Warning Signs of Porn Addiction:
Defensive or Reactive Attitude:
- Does he get angry or defensive about unexplained or recurring charges on your credit cards?
- Does he resent you interrupting his time on the computer?
- He gets angry when you try to discuss your love life.
- He’s defensive when asked about porn use.
- A request to stop looking at porn may be met with hostility, anger or denial.
Changes in Sexual Expectations or Preferences:
- Does he ask or insist that you to perform sexual acts outside your norm or make you uncomfortable, demand that you engage in very odd positions, or increasingly risky venues?
- Has his sexual appetite dramatically increased, decreased, or been lost altogether?
- Has he become emotionally distant, distracted, or not “present” during intercourse?
- Does he seem to have a change of desire such as in looking more intently at other women, younger women, or progressively younger women?
- Does it take more and more stimulation or aggression for him to get to orgasm.
- Has he been masturbating on a regular or increased basis, while at the same time lacks interest in sex or is sexually unresponsive?
Blame Shifting:
- Does he make you feel used or belittled sexually or criticize your performance?
- Is he blaming you for problems in the bedroom, or ignore you after he is finished with you?
- Does it take more and more stimulation or aggression for him to get to orgasm.
Increasing Isolation
- Demands for being alone on the computer, seeking more time to be alone, finding excuses not to go out with the family, spending more time in the bathroom, being secretive about his time. Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, demands privacy and/or changing his bedtime ritual.
Changes in Energy Level:
- Does he seem excessively tired? He may be spending time on the computer while he should be asleep.
Suspicious Behavior.
- When the computer, does rush to type something on the keyboard when you come in? Does he clear the browser history frequently?
- Does your husband seem to be less focused than usual?
- Is he unable to complete tasks that he was able to before?
- Is he more irritable than usual? More withdrawn? Does he resent you interrupting his time on the computer?
- Does he have a private or secret email address or cellphone?
- You feel like you’re no longer getting straight answers.
- You feel like you’re no longer getting straight answers when you ask for explanations about why your love life has changed. He’s defensive when asked about porn use.
Changes in Mood
- You notice withdrawal (emotional distress) when he stops watching porn.
- Irritability increases without an obvious reason or trigger.
- Seems more energized or excited when anticipating alone time.
Inability to Stop
- Engages in high-risk behavior such as viewing porn at work, in social settings on his phone, or at libraries.
- He continues to use pornography despite warnings at work.
- Continues even when you tell him how you feel, even if you tell him you will leave him.
- Continues to view, even after he develops a severe sexual dysfunction, is overwhelmed with guilt or shame.
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