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Current Groups via Zoom!
Men’s Overcomers Group for Internet Porn Addiction…
Overcoming personal habits that lead to relationship strife can be hard–especially if it is caused by habitual porn use, porn addiction, virtual relationships through sexting or texting, engaging in sex worker services, physical affairs, sexual addictions, or emotional affairs. All of these lead to a massive load of personal shame and relationship disruption. If you are struggling with any of these issues, or something closely related, this group is for you. Having a group of men who have the same struggle will help you jettison the shame and repair the heart issues that are reinforcing your habits. This group is free to participate, and open to all men 16 and over.
Join us each Saturday at 10:00 a.m. to begin a new journey, or perhaps to help inspire others as you continue your own journey. It is time to break free and overcome the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that lead to relationship damage.
Join Zoom Meeting each Saturday at 10:00 a.m. (eastern) Meeting ID: 839 3005 6657
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Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group for Women…
Betrayal Trauma happens when the loving bond you share with someone is damaged by a betrayal of the relationship. Betrayal trauma can quickly overwhelm your relationship and caused tremendous damage. When overwhelmed by betrayal, you are thrust into multiple no-win conflicts of the heart and mind. Your love for the betrayer is threatened by feelings of contempt for their behavior. Your feelings of safety and trust are torn by your fear of being wounded again. You have most likely become emotionally dysregulated and cognitively paralyzed. Everything between you is now stained with the betrayal, and nothing seems real or trustworthy now. Your heart and mind argue about whether you should stay and fight for your relationship or leave and avoid more pain.
When the most trusted people in life are the very ones that inflict the greatest harm-all of your beliefs about life are challenged. Betrayal Trauma is most common in marriages where affairs, pornography, emotional affairs, and other behaviors occur. Other betrayals can come through parents, siblings, relatives, children, close friends, and other specially connected people.
The initial discovery of betrayal is enough to cause the body to immediately ramp up its threat response system. Unfortunately, partners are often dealing with not just that first discovery but an ongoing series of discoveries that activate the threat system repeatedly, causing it to fire up and prepare to fight, flee, or shut down over and over. Many betrayed partners report feeling that just as they start to calm down and gain some equilibrium another discovery occurs and once again their system rockets into chaos.
Most people who are wounded by betrayal trauma fail to recover because they try to ignore it, bury it, or heal themselves. This does not work. The actual effects of betrayal trauma are complex and interlaced throughout your heart and mind. Joining with others in group who have also suffered along with expert guidance is the most effective way to cope with betrayal trauma, especially in the beginning. Sometimes, when the trauma runs deep or it has repeated you need individual help to overcome the complex traumatic affects. The worst thing you can do is try to go it alone! Let us help you help yourself now, when it counts the most.
Common Signs of Betrayal Trauma:
- Overwhelming or dysregulated emotional reactions
- Unusual behavioral changes
- Changes in Sleep – too much or too little
- Confusion, memory lost or brain fog
- Changes in eating habits – loss of appetite or compulsive overeating
- Anxiety/panic attacks or depression
- Rumination/obsessive thoughts and intrusive images/flashbacks
- Difficulty caring for self or others
- Isolation or avoidance
- Obsessive need to check on other’s internet history, GPS, email accounts, text message history, etc. for signs that the danger is still present
Sources of Betrayal Trauma include:
- Sexual affairs, sexual abuse, or sexual assault
- Discovery of spouses use or addiction to internet porn
- Emotional affairs (office flirtations, inappropriately intimate friendships with opposite sex, codependency on others outside marriage).
- Cyber-cheating through texting; sexting; social media
- Sudden or Unexpected divorce or separation
- Verbal and emotional assaults/attacks which target and demean your self-esteem from a cherished person.
- Hidden histories, financial secrets, and events of significance to your relationship
- Discovery of substance or behavioral addictions
Join Zoom Meeting each Tuesday at 7:00 p.m. (eastern) Meeting ID: 895 0778 8742
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Men of Valor…
Relationships are living things…they need care and feeding, or they wither and die. Your marriage is the most important relationship you have other than the one you have with God and yourself. Nurture it! yet it is an unfortunate truth that we all mess up. I have, you have, even your spouse has. What we do after we mess up makes all the difference to the survival of your relationship.
Men of Valor is a specially guided men’s group that focuses on you as a man who wants to be the man he is called to be. Men of Valor is an open conversation between men motivated to find their God-driven purpose and begin to live a life that conforms to the vision and mission they each hold for themselves. Our focus is on Valor, Honor, & Commitment to God, Self, Spouse, Family, and the world we connect with. Find your own personal mission and the path forward by joining the conversation.
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Marriage and Relationship Enhancement groups, couples…
Relationships can become confounded with old business from past relationships, “buttons” that people can press to get reactions from you, or perhaps one of “those arguments” that you can’t seem to resolve, and may not even make sense, yet it comes back with regular frequency. Enhancing your relationship begins with an ability to speak heart to heart. You and your spouse or partner can learn to let the heart do the talking by first understanding what it is that is interfering. Our special relationship enhancement programs are designed to coach and teach simple skills that can open the door to deeper communication and understanding, while reducing conflict and pain. Join a small group, come as a couple, or come by yourself and learn how to deepen your relationship.
Use the form below and write “relationship” in the message box. We will contact you to answer questions by email or phone.
Strategic Parenting: Advanced Skills for Parents and Step Parents…
Perhaps the most difficult job you will ever have is parenting your children and step children. Parenting is not something that comes natural. It is a set of skills learned by observing our own parents, trial and error, or other less than effective methods. But parenting can be learned. Surprisingly, parenting can be simple and easy to learn when approached from a strategic mindset. Learn about the goals of misbehavior, how to manage them, and how communication and conflict styles can make or break your own effectiveness as a parent. This program has been used to train foster parents, group home employees, step parents, even juvenile justice workers with remarkable success. If you are having trouble keeping the chaos out of your home, if your teen has stopped listening to you or your spouse, or you simply want to set the best possible foundation for your younger child for future success, join our Strategic Parenting Group. New groups every three months.